Get Back Together With Your Ex

You have broken up with your ex girlfriend and are thinking you want to get back with her. There are many things to consider while you ponder what your next step should be. If the relationship had lasted only a short time you may not be feeling the extreme sense of loss that would usually come with being with someone for a longer period.

However, I have known of cases where the couple met and it was an instant connection and within a short time they felt as if they had known each other for ages. Every relationship is different and you have to decide if you and your ex should get back together.
Honesty is vital to all relationships and when you are wondering if you and your ex can get back together, it is necessary that you be completely honest with yourself. Were you really happy when you were together or were there issues that bothered you that kept arising over and over?

As humans, we often look on the past through rosy glasses and the picture is usually pleasant. As the song goes “what’s too painful to remember we simply choose to forget.” Be sure as you do your soul searching you remain as objective as possible and remember the bad times as well as the good.

Now the truth is that some relationships are not worth saving. I know that sounds harsh and is probably not what you want to hear. There are many scenarios that would fit here. For example: how much time did you spend doing fun things as opposed to fighting? Was there any abuse-physical, mental, or emotional- involved? Were there any mental health issues such as clinical depression, drug or alcohol addiction? If any of these scenarios were in the relationship it was probably an unhealthy one and you will probably be better off without that person.

If the above issues were not present and you would describe the relationship as a good one, the following ideas should help you and your ex get back together.
In the majority of cases you will not get an ex back by acting in any way desperate. You have to give him/her some time and space to think about what has happened. This includes no phone calls, stalking, emails, text messages. I know this is hard to follow, but you have probably already tries most, if not all of these tactics, and where have they gotten you?
To continue with the behaviors that make you appear desperate, if you do see or talk with your ex-because she called you-don’t spend time arguing or trying to plead your case. Begging and pleading, or as I like to say-groveling, is not the way to get an ex back.

If you were the one who was dumped, it is easy to spend untold hours playing the “what if” game. You know the drill; you probably have beaten up on yourself enough. If this is where you are now’s the time to quit that destructive behavior.

We all have things in our lives that if we could go back and do over we would. But life is like live reality TV, there are no retakes. What you need to do now is focus on the here and now. You will have better success at getting an ex back if you back off and let some time pass. She will likely be having a lot of the same thoughts as you. During this time your ex will also probably be missing you and remembering the good times. You will also be on the road to building a happier life for