Friday, July 3, 2009

Breakup Advice – The Steps for Moving On


You are no longer in a relationship you thought was meant to last a long time. The loneliness and hopelessness you feel threaten to drown you. You may have even thrown a pity party or two, but if they were like most pity parties I’ve had you were the only one there.
Getting over a guy is difficult whether he dumped you or you were the one calling it quits. Letting go of someone you had a close relationship with is hard. There is an emptiness in your life that will not be quickly filled with anyone or anything else. Here are some steps to help get over a guy you still like.
First, you need to release the hurt. Your emotions are very raw at this point and you need to start healing. It’s okay to cry. Someone once told me she was afraid to let the tears start because she was afraid she would never stop crying. Then she had the idea of setting a timer, when the timer went off she dried her face. That’s a pretty good idea.
For some keeping a journal of their experiences is a big help. Sometimes when we put our thoughts and feelings on paper we are able to sort through them and become a little more objective about the situation.
At some point you have to accept that the relationship is over. If you continue to hold on to the hope that he will change his mind, if he was the one who called it off, or that he will change whatever made you call it off then you will never get over the guy and move on.
You need to perform some act that symbolizes the end of the relationship. Clear out anything that belongs to him. Box it up and mail it. Do not use this as an excuse to see him. Getting rid of his things will help you start healing.
Let your friends help you through this period. If you were too busy with your ex to spend much time with girlfriends, now is the time to reconnect. Until you meet your husband guys will come and go, but your girlfriends will be with you forever. Not only will your friends help you get over guy, they will also help you with your social life.
As you spend more time with your friends they will share similar breakup experiences. Hearing their stories will help you understand that however badly you are hurting others have hurt and survived. You too can survive the loss and become a stronger person
When you want to get over a guy, the best thing is to move on. You probably have some extra time on your hands so now is a good time to do some of those things you’ve wanted to do but didn’t have the time. Maybe you have an interest you have wanted to follow and taking a class would be in order. Every community offers a wide variety of opportunities for volunteers and volunteers are always needed. You can find plenty activities to fill up your time. As you reach out to others you will feel like a new person. Breakup Advice …

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