The idea of a jerk having a woman he wants to get back strikes me as humorous as I wonder how he got one in the first place. Oh well, my job is not to wonder but to help him get her back.
As harsh as this may sound, if you were a jerk you may not deserve to get her back. But the good news is, by the fact that you refer to yourself as a jerk, that you recognize that you may have had a problem and want to do something about it. You are on the right track now.
To get a woman back here’s what you need to do:
1. Change the way you see women. They are not property and if you view them as such you don’t deserve a chance. Women deserve respect and if you give it to the woman you lost you might have a chance winning het back.
2. Change the way you treat women. Be a gentleman and treat them as queens. Women will know if you are faking this so you must be subtle and try not to draw attention to yourself. If the woman you are trying to win back doesn’t pick up on any insincerity on your part her friends will and they will be very quick to tell her. At that point your credibility may be shot.
3. Learn humility. This will go a long way towards helping you get a woman back.
4. Let her know that you were a jerk. If she tells you that you were a jerk, agree with her. In your opinion she may exaggerate your bad behavior. If that happens, just agree with her. This is why help number three told you to learn humility. If your goal is to get a woman back the only opinion that matters is hers. You are trying to sell yourself. You remember the saying: the customer is always right. Well, she’s the customer in this situation.
5. Determine if she wants you to come begging of if she wants some space. Whatever she wants, give it to you. This will probably be a very difficult task to complete. You may have to talk with people who know her well to learn this.
6. Try to convince her friends that you have changed. This is a vital step. They know how she has been hurt by you and will be skeptical of your claims of change. They will put their friend first and do all they can to protect her. If you can win her friends over you have won a huge part of the battle. If you try to get the ex back first, you will probably have trouble convincing her and even if you do her friends may talk her out of it. Think about it: Do you want her close friends for or against you?
7. Don’t tell her that you have changed; show her. It’s easy to talk the talk, now you have to walk the walk.
8. Think about the long term; if you won’t be able to maintain the changes you have made then you are going to end up in the same place with less of a chance of success at getting a woman back. If you have been sincere in your efforts to change you probably have a good chance of having her take a second look at you and getting her back. Read more
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