I love that British sit com “As Time Goes By.” If you’re not familiar with it here’s a brief summation: it’s a story of a couple who met and fell in love during a war, became separated, returned to their respective cities, married, had children, then accidentally met again later in life, and as they say…the rest is history..
You may have had a person that you felt was the true love of your life and for whateve
r reason you went separate ways. It may have been a recent relationship or one a number of years ago. When you think about the times that were so good with that person you feel it was a mistake that you parted. It is even possible that the one you lost has the same feelings.
If you are alone and would like to reconnect with that person, don’t just sit around and reminisce, do something about it. If you have no idea where they are, use the wide variety available resources to locate them.
Locating them will probably be the easy part. Once you know where they are it becomes a little tricky. First of all, to win back love you have to learn about their situation. The least threatening thing to do is
write a letter to them. In it say that you were going through some old things and found something that reminded you of them. This lets them know you are curious about them and gives you the opportunity to ask questions about what is going on in their life.
Also this gives you the chance to let them know a little about your situation. Needless to say, you don’t let them know your real purpose. Just make it appear they your only interest is mild curiosity. If you learn that they are happily involved with someone else, you certainly don’t want to cause any problems. Once you’ve had contact you may realize that what seemed such a perfect relationship was just an illusion. Either way, it will still be good for you to know about them.
If they are available feel free to strike up a friendship. Keep things very light and casual at first; don’t force anything.
When you have been corresponding for a little while, if you don’t already have their phone number, give them yours and let them know they can call you anytime. This takes the pressure off the situation. If they want to talk they will call.
The relationship may move from friendship to a more intimate one in a short period. If you meet in person it won’t take you long to determine if they are still the one you love and if the feeling is mutual. Be patient, don’t rush into making a long term commitment until you hav
e spent enough time to really know if the relationship has a good chance of survival. If all does work out and you do want to get back together, great! You have found that’s it’s possible to win back a love of a lifetime. If interested read on…
You may have had a person that you felt was the true love of your life and for whateve
r reason you went separate ways. It may have been a recent relationship or one a number of years ago. When you think about the times that were so good with that person you feel it was a mistake that you parted. It is even possible that the one you lost has the same feelings.If you are alone and would like to reconnect with that person, don’t just sit around and reminisce, do something about it. If you have no idea where they are, use the wide variety available resources to locate them.
Locating them will probably be the easy part. Once you know where they are it becomes a little tricky. First of all, to win back love you have to learn about their situation. The least threatening thing to do is
write a letter to them. In it say that you were going through some old things and found something that reminded you of them. This lets them know you are curious about them and gives you the opportunity to ask questions about what is going on in their life.Also this gives you the chance to let them know a little about your situation. Needless to say, you don’t let them know your real purpose. Just make it appear they your only interest is mild curiosity. If you learn that they are happily involved with someone else, you certainly don’t want to cause any problems. Once you’ve had contact you may realize that what seemed such a perfect relationship was just an illusion. Either way, it will still be good for you to know about them.
If they are available feel free to strike up a friendship. Keep things very light and casual at first; don’t force anything.
When you have been corresponding for a little while, if you don’t already have their phone number, give them yours and let them know they can call you anytime. This takes the pressure off the situation. If they want to talk they will call.
The relationship may move from friendship to a more intimate one in a short period. If you meet in person it won’t take you long to determine if they are still the one you love and if the feeling is mutual. Be patient, don’t rush into making a long term commitment until you hav
e spent enough time to really know if the relationship has a good chance of survival. If all does work out and you do want to get back together, great! You have found that’s it’s possible to win back a love of a lifetime. If interested read on…
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