Breakup Advice.

You are in quite a dilemma; you and your ex don’t agree on whether or not to get back together. If the relationship was a long one then the decision regarding reconciliation is probably even more difficult.
Some questions to consider when deciding whether or not to get back together include:
Why does your ex want to get back together?
Is getting back together going to help you get where you want to go?
Will getting back together make you a better and more secure person?
Are you willing to get back together for their sake?
You need to remember what the relationship was like most of the time. Was it peaceful or volatile? If the relationship was very explosive then you probably don’t need to get back together. But this is a decision you have to make for yourself.
For a couple everything is supposed to be for the mutual benefit. When the relationship ends though there is no more ‘you’ in the collective sense and you have to decide what is best for the solitary you. As hard as it may be to do don’t cave into your ex’s desire to get back together because of guilt. The only way the relationship will ever be a successful one is if the two of you will benefit from being together. If every time you are together it’s like a volcano exploding you may not want to reconnect. If the relationship was stress filled then not getting back together will probably be the right thing for both of you.
Pretending that everything is okay when your ex wants to get back together is the worst thing you can do. Your heart may be breaking for the pain the ex is experiencing. You also may be feeling some guilt for things happening the way they did and for your lack of desire to get back together. Those are all perfectly natural feelings, but don’t do something you will both regret. Going back into a relationship because you feel a sense of obligation-guilt-to do so will not be good for either of you. This is something you will not be able to explain to your ex. If you have reached this decision you will just have to stand firm and know in your mind you are doing the right thing for both of you.
After your soul searching, you should be on the road to knowing if the two of you are supposed to be together. If you still have doubts let that be your red flag. If you honestly believe the two of you are better together than apart, that’s great and you should get back together. Do so though, only if the feeling is mutual. If it’s not then the relationship is doomed to failure, regardless of how badly your ex wants to get back together.
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