Friday, July 17, 2009

How To Stop Your Divorce

Stop the divorce
Divorce in our society is rampant and often is not what the couple really wants. It just seems when that ball starts rolling it’s hard to stop it. There are many reasons why divorce happens; one of the most common is broken trust. If you are on the road to divorce and want to stop it this article is for you.
If you and your spouse are considering divorce because you have been unfaithful and you are serious about wanting to know how to stop a divorce, begin by accepting responsibility for your behavior.

Don’t try to talk your spouse into believing that you can change, you have to make the change.
You’ve often heard the saying “actions speak louder than words.” In no situation is this truer than when you are trying to convince a loved one that you have changed. If what caused the potential divorce is a matter of trust you must not do it again- period. Don’t do anything that would make your spouse question whether or not you are faithful. You will have to earn trust again; hopefully you have not caused so much hurt that your spouse will never trust you again.
Your efforts, not talk, to be faithful is what will offer assurance that you are changing. Don’t deny that you have betrayed and don’t try to justify it. If you don’t regain trust right away, don’t get mad and don’t argue about it. This process may take some time, but if you want to stop the divorce you will have to be patient.
If the one you love is the one who broke the trust and has been unfaithful, then you are the one who has to be willing to forgive if you want to stop the divorce. Try to understand what happened and what you can do to restore the relationship.
Let’s be honest and admit that some marriages can’t be saved. If, however, you feel that yours can be then get all the help you can to accomplish it. Family and friends may be able to help. If you need more, by all means find a counselor who can help you. Just know that you don’t have to go through this alone.
Regardless of the outcome if you want to stop the divorce you will be glad you made the effort. If this relationship does end if you have learned the importance of maintaining trust then your next relationship will be a better one. For more…

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