There’s and old song “Fifty Ways to Lose Your Lover” but unfortunatel
y it doesn’t have a counterpart “Fifty Ways to Get Your Lover Back.”
As the song says there are many ways to lose your lover; losing one is easy to do. The ways to get one back seem fewer and often more difficult. Most of us want relationships to last a long time and the ultimate goal is for one that will last a lifetime. If you were in a relationship that you wanted to last and something happened to cause a breakup you probably are trying to find ways to win an ex back. It takes work and there is no certainty that you will succeed but having a positive attitude and remaining confident will surely help you reach your goal.
There are some things that can almost guarantee that you won’t win an ex back and are to be avoided. These include:
I know this seems like a good idea; you think if you don’t call that they won’t know how much you care. Face it-you’re broken up; there is no relationship at the moment. Constant calling lets them know that you aren’t letting go and for someone who does want to let go you are being really annoying. If you think you can pester them until they come back you are setting yourself up for a huge disappointment. The only result of constant calling will be then changing their phone number and using caller ID to screen their calls.
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2. Going to places she is likely to be. Trying to see her all the time is a horrible way to win an ex back. No one wants to be stalked and such behavior may result in a restraining being filed against you. If you are broken up then it’s obvious she needs a break from you. Forcing yourself on her is only going to serve to drive her further away.
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3. Setting up an online shrine. Now this is a really bad way to win an ex back. Your intentions may be good and you make think you will score points with her, but showing her and the rest of the net your devotion by putting together an online shrine is not the way to go. Your thinking may go something like this: “I will make a page devoted to her on social network sites; she and the world will see how desperately I feel and how much I want her back.” You may even think others will offer you sympathy. In reality, she is probably the only one who will be getting sympathy. People will realize how much harassing you are doing and will feel sorry for her.
I appreciate how desperate you must feel and how badly you want to find ways to win an ex back. But please be careful and think at least twice before making a move. As you saw above the ways to win an ex back that you may think are good will often only lead to disaster. This might help you think this through.
y it doesn’t have a counterpart “Fifty Ways to Get Your Lover Back.”As the song says there are many ways to lose your lover; losing one is easy to do. The ways to get one back seem fewer and often more difficult. Most of us want relationships to last a long time and the ultimate goal is for one that will last a lifetime. If you were in a relationship that you wanted to last and something happened to cause a breakup you probably are trying to find ways to win an ex back. It takes work and there is no certainty that you will succeed but having a positive attitude and remaining confident will surely help you reach your goal.
There are some things that can almost guarantee that you won’t win an ex back and are to be avoided. These include:
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2. Going to places she is likely to be. Trying to see her all the time is a horrible way to win an ex back. No one wants to be stalked and such behavior may result in a restraining being filed against you. If you are broken up then it’s obvious she needs a break from you. Forcing yourself on her is only going to serve to drive her further away.
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3. Setting up an online shrine. Now this is a really bad way to win an ex back. Your intentions may be good and you make think you will score points with her, but showing her and the rest of the net your devotion by putting together an online shrine is not the way to go. Your thinking may go something like this: “I will make a page devoted to her on social network sites; she and the world will see how desperately I feel and how much I want her back.” You may even think others will offer you sympathy. In reality, she is probably the only one who will be getting sympathy. People will realize how much harassing you are doing and will feel sorry for her.
I appreciate how desperate you must feel and how badly you want to find ways to win an ex back. But please be careful and think at least twice before making a move. As you saw above the ways to win an ex back that you may think are good will often only lead to disaster. This might help you think this through.
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